We’ve all had talks in which the issue of unfaithfulness is mentioned and recently I was in this kind of conversation with a close friend who was revealing to me that she had caught her man contacting some phone chat sex lines, and just how she was so upset that he had been making use of her personal credit card to pay for the telephone calls! “The only silver lining in all of this is that these were cut-rate phone sex discussions” my good friend eventually pointed out concerning all those phonesex discussions he had been enjoying without her knowledge, as though he ought to be congratulated for acute sense of financial propriety for locating inexpensive adult phone sex chats instead of higher priced sex phone numbers! I had to finally ask her if that was the sole reason she was upset about, after all, if my own spouse was the one having adult one-to-one sexual conversations with other women, I suspect I would have turned out to be furious with regards to the whole thing!
After all, the internet is full with offers of 1-on-1 phone sex, invitations for intimate 1 on 1 live web cam shows where intimacy is the keyword.
For many singles, adult phone is probably the easiest way to break the monotony of the single life. But what would you say if a person you knew, a married person! at that told you once that she caught her husband using one such adult phone service? Would you forgive him like my friend just did (she found out that her dear spouse had been getting in touch with an adult phone service for some special “gratification”, as if this wasn’t enough that he used her credit card “yet” had the “good sense” to waste her own money on Low-priced Phone Sex offers!), or would his actions be a real problem for you? I know how I would have reacted but here is what my friend told me when I asked her whether she had been angered by the whole thing!
Wouldn’t you agree that when we go out with the girls sometimes, some of us get into more mischief than my dear husband does?”
Her reaction gave me food for thoughts. It was certainly an statement I hadn’t been ready for, yet I had to confess that there was some truth in it. All things considered, everyone knows that the women who answer these types of calls are nothing like the photos they publish on their websites so it could possibly be rationalized that it is not necessarily the woman her boyfriend phoned whom he was experiencing phonesex with, but rather a fantasy, an actress who was playing a specific role play.
“I have caught my very own partner enjoying adult porn on many occasions” I recognized, “so I believe I can comprehend your point of view! With that said, I am sure I would not have make it possible for my spouse to walk freely from such a behavior though..”
And just as I was going to develop my chain of thoughts further, my friend cut me off:
“Wait… It wasn’t as if I was completely ok with the whole thing, but really I could not see any harm in whatever he had done. I did tell him off for the fact that he used my credit card without my knowledge, and as I was talking to him about it, it suddenly dawned on me that I might have liked to have been involved in the next call. So I told him so. I said that any time he had the need to seek release with some adult phone girl, I wanted to be included in the conversation, either in the background, just listening in, or actively involved in it”
To say that I was surprised would be the understatement of the year. I was besides myself with incredulity! This was my lovely, innocent child hood friend! The girl who still went bright red whenever she heard a joke of a more “earthy” nature. And this was the sweet, innocent woman who was telling me that was entertaining the idea of a threesome, even if it was to take place by way of mobile love!
“And…. Did you?” I finally wanted to know.
“Yes…” She said. “And before you ask, yes, it was a lot of fun!”